By Irfan Attari Kashmiri
SRINAGAR – In the quiet walls of family homes, beyond the reach of schoolyards, streets, and playgrounds, a nameless terror unfolds for untold numbers of children. Family sexual abuse is an invisible plague a plague hidden behind the mantle of social decency, family reputation, and long-established denial. For the victims who are children, the family home, originally a sanctuary of concern and confidence, is a place of disorientation, fear, and violation.
While the world wishes to talk of threats in the public arena or on the web, most children experience their worst blows inside their own homes. Such is usually inflicted by members of the household — fathers, brothers, cousins, uncles, and sometimes even female members. Such trauma is worse when the victim knows that asking for assistance will destroy the family, bring shame, or result in more brutality.
In the households where the abuser is the loved one or the person in authority, the child is forced to suffer in silence, caught in the web of love and fear. Sexual abuse is not just a physical attack; it shatters the mental and emotional pillars of the child. The injuries are left untreated and reach the stage of chronic diseases such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, and suicidal tendencies. The unseen scars influence the survivors to trust others, form relationships, and view the world around them.
It is impossible not to see how virtual exposure has also blurred the lines of childhood innocence. With smartphones and unfettered access to the internet, graphic content is typically presented before young, curious minds years before the time they would be emotionally mature enough to deal with it. In recent incidents in most cases, children engaged in abusive behaviors admitted to imitating what they had seen on the internet, usually unaware of the gravity of what they were doing. Experts have repeatedly emphasized the role of digital literacy and parental oversight in safeguarding children’s mental and moral growth.
Another crucial element is the vulnerability that is created in stepfamilies and blended families. For most, the absence of healthy emotional bonds, unresolved power struggles, and lack of monitoring create fertile ground where abuse can silently take hold. Children in these families will have a hard time identifying stable adults to whom they can turn for trust, especially when silence is an expected family value. That silence allows the cycle of abuse to continue, allowing the abuser to function unchallenged as the victim slowly retreats into psychological isolation.
Stigma and fear of social ostracism usually silence the survivors. Socialization in cultures discourages open talk about sex, especially involving members of their families. Victims, and particularly little girls, are instructed that family honor is at stake if they speak up. This misplaced sense of responsibility keeps them in emotional cages, and they are left to fend for themselves. The very few who manage to muster enough courage to tell are sometimes greeted with suspicion, victim-blaming, or intimidation by their perpetrators.
The consequences of concealed abuse do not end when the victim is a child. Statistics reveal a grim reality: many survivors end up with problems in intimate relationships, experience self-loathing, become drug or alcohol addicts, and in some instances, become abusers themselves. Some, not being able to cope, end up as victims of human trafficking, as traffickers exploit their willingness to escape the violent relationship. In some instances, unresolved trauma and prolonged silence accumulate into atrocities like murder, where the victim or the abuser is driven over the edge.
India’s justice system, the Protection of Children from Sexual Offenses (POCSO) Act, was intended to bring quick justice to victims and swift punishment to perpetrators. But the strength of any law lies in its enforcement, and the enforcement of this one is arbitrary. Few cases reach court because families would prefer to “take care of things in-house” instead of humiliating their child with a public trial. Others fall apart because of insufficient evidence, normally because the victim was too scared to report the abuse when it first started.
Breaking this silence is the sole true path to healing and justice. Education at schools, social awareness campaigns at communities, and community-based systems of support must cooperate to give children the words and confidence to report. Parents must create a shame- and judgment-free society in which children feel free to report uncomfortable occurrences without fear of repercussions. Survivors must be able to have easy access to mental health facilities in order to deal with and overcome their experience.
The community has a crucial part to play. Neighbors, doctors, teachers, and even distant relatives have to be aware of the telltale signs withdrawal, changes in behavior, fear, and anxiety and report these without hesitation. Turning a blind eye or hiding it in the interest of family honor only extends the cycle of abuse, intergenerational transfer of trauma, and so forth.
This silent epidemic is not a personal tragedy. It is a public emergency that charts the emotional and mental landscape of future generations. All children are entitled to a home that is abuse-free, free from manipulation, and free from fear. To construct a society where children can grow up safely and live with dignity, the silence walls must be broken. The reckoning time is now for families, schools, policymakers, and the legal system to place children’s rights and protection above cultural pride or social expectation. The future of any nation is built on the security and resilience of its children. Without solving this silent epidemic, we are at risk of condemning too many young hearts to a lifetime of trauma, silence, and fear. Change begins with listening to the unheard and believing the unspoken.
The author Irfan Attari can be contacted at: askirfanattari@gmail.com
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